The-Red-Jack 2008-03-11 04:24:11

Ask him if he is serious, if he is then think on what you feel, If you love him, well.... why not?

Kloud11 2008-03-11 05:22:31

Keep your chin up and expect guys to be random. We are an odd bunch. Hope things work out for the best lady!

Cyberdevil 2008-03-11 08:00:28

How troublesome. :P

Just think about your own feelings, not his, if you've been friends in 7 years you should know him pretty well, right? Regardless of what you decide it won't be the same as before, hope it turns out good though.

squeakytoad 2008-03-24 10:02:25

The "friend zone". Poor guy.

You have to look at your situation though. I mean, you're probably finishing high school sometime soon (as is he). So you're both probably headed off towards completely different futures.
Also, high school relationships don't usually work out, and are more of a fun/growing experience than something serious.
Therefore I usually think it's silly when kids who have been friends for an exceptionally long time play the dating game all of a sudden. Yeah, there may be "feelings" there, but really now, after high school, everyone realizes they had no idea what was going on and what a real relationship is.
Too many people screw themselves up by taking high school "relationships" too seriously.

Ultimately though, drama doesn't help. Have fun, do what you feel like (as long as it's the right thing to do of course). Life speeds by fast, and you don't want to miss what could've been great.
It's just cheesy to profess your "undying love for each other", and going around acting as if you're getting married and you're an exclusive couple who goes everywhere together is just a tight little box that keeps getting tighter. And after the whole thing is over you'll feel really silly for taking it so seriously.

The above commenter, when he said "I can relate with this guy" means that he's been in the same situation before. Most guys have. As I said earlier, it's the "friend zone" that many guys want to get out of, but the girl wants to remain in.

Good luck, Athi. Hope things go well for you.

chris-the-stick 2008-03-29 20:10:28

hey discuss it with him, and see if you want to go ahead with this guy. if yes, go on, and get to a relationship (as long as you feel fine). but if not, well.. in thsi case, just.. err try to tell him that you cant have a relation ship right now. and that you could feel bad if yo uwould be teared apart by getting in a relationship, since you have been out of an older that is, (as i know) and you acnt get over it. (i feel very sorry about that). however, it may be the tiem to move on, and look out for something new, no matter hwo crule that might looks. you need to search for love. we all need to :(